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On Being Brave | A Gentle + Quiet AF Spirit

Let’s just all take a moment to say, WOW! What beautiful people these are!  I had some big dreams for Jason and Emily’s downtown portrait session. And I’ve still been daydreaming about them ever since. But I have a bit of a bone to pick and I’d love to bat the idea around with you.  The idea of a gentle and quiet af spirit.

Let’s Talk About Beauty

Can we talk about beauty for a moment?  Real, deep down, independent beauty?  Emily has it.  I’m not just talking about her looks and her style.  That kind of beauty is easy to spot and everyone has their own opinions about it.  I’m talking about a beauty that comes from within the soul.  One that is cultivated and not just passed down from generation to generation.

“The beauty of a woman is not in the clothes she wears, the figure that she carries, or the way she combs her hair. The beauty of a woman is seen in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides. True beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It’s the caring that she lovingly gives, the passion that she shows & the beauty of a woman only grows with passing years.”

-Audrey Hepburn

A Gentle + Quiet AF Spirit

Another has said your beauty “should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit.” And here is where my opinions on beauty start to kick in.  I used to think of a “gentle and quiet spirit” as being an invisible woman.  One who is neither seen nor heard.  She has beauty but God alone will appreciate it because for crying out loud no one else can find her!!

I don’t think that’s it.

It might be easier to follow me and think of what a “not-quiet spirit” is like.  If I am

  • feeling a crushing pressure of imperfection while I scroll through my Instagram feed
  • constantly needing comparing myself to other girls (to either prove to myself that I’m better than them or prove to myself that I’m not as good as them)
  • perpetually unhappy with my body
  • need validation from other people (especially boys) to feel valuable

Is my spirit quiet?  Absolutely not!  And I’m no longer okay with that.  That’s not a fun way to live and I don’t want my daughter picking up those traits from me either!

I don’t want to live with that kind of anxiety!

So this is why I think beauty HAS to have more to do with who we are on the inside than what a good contour can do for our face.  [Although, at the time of writing this I’m 32, almost 33 and just now starting to figure out basic make-up skills.  Thank you, Cara!] Let’s dig deeper to find our beauty… and if we’re really feeling brave let’s dig even deeper into our hearts to find out why we keep trying to hide it!

Ket Photography | On Being Brave | A Gentle + Quiet AF Spirit

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